User blog:Zaffie/Maturity

So.

In the wake of the massive blamoodle (yeah, I just made up a word. Wanna make something of it?) which happened like last week, after which a bunch of people said they were quitting, resigning from staff or being demoted, etc, I thought I'd seize the chance to say this. Because it needs to be said, even though we all try not to.

There is a reason which the minimum age for joining Wikia - any Wikia - is thirteen. And that is because more often than not, before thirteen, people just aren't mature enough to cope with the internet. It's not just an age thing, either - children of eleven or twelve years are just beginning puberty, chock-full of hormones which make them grumpy, weepy, emotional messes.

Now not all thirteen-year-olds are mature either - and I'm not terribly mature at fifteen, so yeah. But the point I'm trying to make is that if we ignore that particular rule for the sake of all the people on our wiki who we would HATE to lose just because they haven't reached their 'teens' yet - if we ignore that rule, then we need to work on our maturity. We can't just make allowances for people because they are young. Some people are having miserable lives - sure, I bet we can all believe that. And all of us can sympathise in one way or another, too. I had brain surgery. Fork had cancer. Arti's near-blind in one eye. Red has a crazy hormonal condition. Some people might have awful parents, some people might have awful step-parents, some people might be bullied at school, some people might be gay, etc. But what we'll all eventually realise is that EVERYONE HAS SOME PART OF THEIR LIFE WHICH SUCKS. So it's no good comparing miseries - it's no good saying 'oh, my life is worse than yours because'. I mean sure, sometimes someone might say 'OMG I'M SO MISERABLE BECAUSE I GOT A PAPER CUT ON MY PALM' and Fork might say 'Yeah, well, check out the whopping great scars me and Zaffie sport'. But really, being miserable shouldn't be an excuse for causing drama.

And neither should being young. Do you see what I'm getting at here? We all need to start pulling together and being more mature, because frankly this wiki is a lot like high school without the maturity, and high school sucks. It's like high school with a smaller group of people who threaten to leave every time there's drama... WTF? Okay, my similie sucks. Whatever. But the point still stands. I'm bored of all the immaturity, so let's pull it together, people! Let's try to be awesome and not lose the game! (I just won the game). So... yeah. I just thought it needed to be said.

Oh, and one more thing. Arti and Birchy are now our sole admins (with Wetty doing a shining job as rolly). Now, back when I was staff (like a week ago, LOL) I knew there were a lot of complaints going to Arti about all sorts of things. I really don't think she needs that pressure, not to mention it's a childish thing to do. She's not our mum (or mom) she's not our teacher and she doesn't need to listen to us whining to her. So I think if you have a problem with a specific rule, maybe either knuckle down and deal with it or theorise with other members of the wiki about an amendment, see who else wants to change it. Don't go running to Arti. And the same goes for an argument or a spat with another user - try and sort it out with them, if possible. Don't start PMing other people about how annoying they are (believe me, I did that, and it was a mistake) and don't go running to Arti.

Okay, lecture over. You can take my words to heart or ignore them, whatever. But the way I see it - everyone here is SO miserable when someone else leaves, that we must be a pretty tight society. So if we are a society, let's try and act like one and keep it together as best we can. Okay. Done.