User blog:Pastelpill/Friend Problems *update*

So some of you might remember two blogs I made: one about my friend backstabbing me and one about my friend's cat dying.

Guess what. They're the same person.

And I know she gained a lot of sympathy because "oh, her parents are divorced, poor her!" and I already know the comments are gonna be filled with how I should forgive her and everything and that I should be there for her, that I'm a bad friend and that it's my fault.

Let's make one thing clear: don't say those things, because I don't care. I've had enough and I'm done with her.

Let's have some cover names for people in this:

The ex-friend: Shelly

My good friend: Lily

My half-friend: Kate

Mentioned guy 1: Matthew

Mentioned guy 2: Tom

Okay, so you know, Shelly had backstabbed me. Multiple times. But what came last time just pissed me off and I'm done.

So, let's describe Shelly first.

We have this "cool gang" in our class, which, let's be clear, everyone wants to be in. Heck, even me. But that doesn't mean I intrude. Lily, Kate, Matthew and Tom are in the gang. However, Shelly does intrude - a lot. Me, Lily and Kate went to McDonald's a while ago and that is when I actually realized how terrible friend Shelly is. Kate, who doesn't like Shelly and is not afraid to admit it started a speel about how she intrudes into the gang, she always sits by them, she always talks to them, she always acts like she's their friend. Lily also mentioned how Shelly follows her everywhere (and to be clear Lily is pretty popular so that's likely the reason), which must be really obnoxious.

Anyways, I joined in on the conversation and complained about all the times we had arguments because of her.

"Oh! But that's talking crap about her behind her back! You should tell it to her face! You are no better than her!"

Well guess what I tried to do about billion times? Tell it to her face. The problem is she can't take critisism. She always puffs up like a spoiled princess and walks away, ignoring me for the rest of the day.

The funny part? While she claims I'm her "best friend", she only does that to me! Not even Kate, who she knows about that dislikes her! That ticked me off for a while.

So there is really no way to reason with her really.

So, I found out that Shelly talked crap about us behind our backs to each of us, which I think is really messed up. It happens with youtubers all the time - they do something scummy and they get exposed. And that is exactly what happened that faithful day.

Let's not overdramatize this. Anyways so we talked about our problems with her for a bit. Kate said multiple times how Shelly bathes in her own sorrow which I kind of have to agree with to be honest. She also said that she is incredibly cringey and that she is just unbearable. And that is ladies and gentlemen when I snapped.

I went on a speel how much crap she did to me and how she hurt me on a very personal level. Kate then said that she doesn't get how we can pity her and that someone can't tell someone else that they don't like them. That made me wonder. Why didn't I actually tell her? Why? Was I really that weak? Me and Lily talked for a bit after Kate left and we came to conclusion that we do not wants to be friends with her after finding out all of this.

We then decided to go to this bookshop. Not the best place for something like this, but hey, we both like it there so all cool. We talked about her for a bit when our phones buzzed. You guessed it, it was her sending us some stuff to our instagram group. So Lily told her something that fired up the conversation and I joined on my phone. We said something that hinted on the fact that we don't like her, and she went all like "I don't get why you hate me!" Well guess what, I don't get why you hate me either. We basically made fun of some stuff while we brought up some points against her too. Her comebacks can't even be called comebacks. She then was like "well I'm going outside bye".

It was almost dark. It was only 4 pm, but when it's winter it's already pretty dark by that time. And outside was so cold. And why would she be sending us stuff from instagram if she knew she was going outside??? She should've been the bigger man and say "well I don't care, bye" but nah she would rather lie.

The bad part? The next day she acted like nothing happened.

Stop looking at it from her point of view and look at it from mine. Wouldn't you feel satisfied if you have slammed someone that betrayed you, backstabbed you, embarrassed you and probably hated you behind your back while pretending that they're your friend? Not trying to act like this is a norm, but I would say that many of you would probably feel satisfied.

The problem is that she thinks we're so dumb and won't realize what kind of person she really is. Well guess what you little idiot, you are the one who ended up being the dumb one in this whole situation.

I asked my mother and grandmother for advice and after me giving them all the points I gave to you guys, they agreed with me that I should stop being friends with her (even though my mother was like "there are four girls in your class, you need to hold together" at first, but our class as a thing is like one living organism. Sometimes you can't get along with someone and just because she is also a girl doesn't mean I have to be friends with her).

So nobody really likes Shelly at the very moment. I don't care if she regrets anything or comes and apologizes. I'm done with her and that's it.

I get people all those time say "oh, my class hates me waaah!" Half of the time however, the people that say this should stop and think why it's that way and then say whether it's the fault of the class or their own.

At the summer when I first got the screenshots from Lily in my email, I was genuinely upset, hurt, shocked and all of that. Despite all that while Shelly played the victim card, I still forgave her, even though I spent about 10 minutes crying after I found the screenshots.

I'm done crying now.

I'm done being hurt now.

It's time for me to stop be so weak and actually do something about it. I will admit, if many of you met me irl, you wouldn't like me. I'm extremely whiny little idiot that yells at her parents and bathes in her own sorrow. But I would never, ever dream of betraying my friends. I love all my friends (not in that way) and they mean a lot to me.

And just in case Shelly ever reads this which is highly unlikeable, I have a little message for you.

Stop acting like we're friends. You aren't a friend and you never were a one. You lied to me and talked crap about me. You backstabbed me multiple times and I'm done with you, you little, despicable, dumb piece of crap. Don't ever speak to me again.

That being said, I ask you guys for advice. And I don't take "you should forgive her and be friends with her" as an advice, thank you.